You Might Be Called Selfish — But You’re Just Breaking Generational Patterns

You skip the second plate or you skip desert. You go to the gym instead of your cousin’s party [peda]. You say no to mix drinks, even if the family insists.

And then come the looks. The comments. The side-eyes from your tía who calls you creído, or your uncle who says you’ve changed. 

Let’s be clear: this isn’t about being selfish.
This is about self-respect.

We grew up in homes where love was often shown through food, not boundaries. Where staying quiet was safer than speaking up. Where saying yes meant you were “good,” even when it cost you your health or peace.

But that ends with us.

We’re not rejecting our culture — we’re rewriting the unhealthy parts. And that’s brave.

You’re allowed to say no.
You’re allowed to be different.
You’re allowed to choose peace over people-pleasing.

This is what breaking generational patterns looks like.

We want healthier families and communities, but it start with us.